My boy. My baby boy. My BFF. I've been thinking quite a bit about how life will change for him this summer and beyond.
My grandmother used to comment that bringing a new baby home for an older sibling would be a lot like your husband bringing home another woman. I've been thinking about that a lot and the closeness of my relationship with Freddie. I wonder what our time together will look like. How will I make both boys feel special and loved. How do I avoid competition and comparison. What if the little brother is bigger than the big brother.
I don't doubt my capacity to love both or Freddie's capacity to love his brother. But parenting two boys? I suppose I'll do my best, try to make informed parenting decisions, and carry on, but really, I'm feeling a bit nervous.
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I felt nervous too. But once the baby arrives you will know him just like you know Freddie and it won't seem so scary. Until he's born he seems like a bit of a stranger.
Ford was cold to me the first week or so after we came home from the hospital, and it really hurt my heart. He was sweet toward Louie, but clearly upset with me. It passed quickly though, once I was recovered from labor and made some extra effort to be fun and playful (...even though my boobs were engorged and I was exhausted!)
I couldn't imagine it either. It really freaked me out for a while but once Evan was here, it was just a New Normal. Now, I can't remember what it was like having 1.
You are an awesome Mom and you will be twice as awesome with your two boys! Love, love you! Don't be nervous, just be you!
Your heart will grow -- and you will have more than enough love to go around. It's tha patience I ran out of! But if I can do it, you can do it!!
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